Hyperion Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 (edited) So I have my b/f on my xbox list and another friend we both have, aside from that we don't play with anyone with co-op games. Well, my b/f and I want to play Borderlands 2, problem is we want to play with just the 2 of us but our friend wants to play with us even if he beat it 454543534 times. It's not that we don't like him or anything it's just the first Borderlands meant alot to us and we like to really emerse ourselves in the story, stay at the same level and keep at our own pace for the second game. We feel bad but anyway, does anyone know how, without just telling him, to get around playing it without him knowing? Some ideas, anything? EDIT: Thanks a bunch guys, I told him the truth and he was completely fine with it and we plan to play together on the second play through. Thanks again for helping me manage the courage xD ^^ Edited November 8, 2012 by Hyperion Resolved :3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StolenPaper18 Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Appear offline? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cmpunk Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 So I have my b/f on my xbox list and another friend we both have, aside from that we don't play with anyone with co-op games. Well, my b/f and I want to play Borderlands 2, problem is we want to play with just the 2 of us but our friend wants to play with us even if he beat it 454543534 times. It's not that we don't like him or anything it's just the first Borderlands meant alot to us and we like to really emerse ourselves in the story, stay at the same level and keep at our own pace for the second game. We feel bad but anyway, does anyone know how, without just telling him, to get around playing it without him knowing? Some ideas, anything? Being honest would be the best option. Honesty isnt a bad thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jacobite Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 With Cmpunk, If I had a couple of friends (oh how I wish I had a couple of friends) and they asked me to leave them to enjoy a full run at the game Id be fine with it. Most reasonable people couldnt take offence, its not like your saying dont play with us its just a short term request. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StevenNeill Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 My wife and I had the same issue. I play all the time but the only game she currently plays is borderlands 2 and both of us work a lot. We did borderlands together and borderlands 2 is our...together time. We dont want to share that. My wifes cousin jumps in my games without asking so I told him that when Im online with my son I dont care if he joins in but when Im on with my wife that the game is closed because that was time for me and my wife to share together with no one else. He understood...but just in case I reset my wife and our game to be by invite only so no one else CAN iump in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DecadentBeaver Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Just have a word with your friend, explain that its just your time together for gaming. If he's a decent guy, he will understand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Akuza Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Being honest would be the best option. Honesty isnt a bad thing. Yeah deffinately. Be either blunt or honest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destro Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Apearing offline is the best way to be sure tough... Personally i had a similar problem with Resident Evil 6. I wanted to do it SOLO... Usually i prefer to do ALL my games solo the first run, cause i hate when some dude speak during cinematic, or even in action it kinda distract from the game... i enjoys game like a movie if i can say. When i go pro run or veteran or whatever its call, i don't mind having help and helping somebody, but first run is a full cinematic experience for me. Yet i kept getting invited all the time to party and people kept asking me to play with them... i was always like NO DUDE, NOT UNTIL I FINISH THE 4 CAMPAIGN YET... and at one point i just put myself offline when playing... now i was not bothered anymore. Only exeption i did to my rule is GOW3 due to that damn 4 player co-op achievement... i wanted to be sure i had 3 people to do every chapters... and it was a pain... we would play for 1 hour, normally i would want to stop playing(rare i do more than an hour of campaign) and they wanted to continue so at one i was getting grumpy, especially since they insisted to put it on veteran first run... i was really PISSED OFF BADLY at the lambant berserker.... Thats why a solo run is always better... always. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapture639 Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Just tell him to BUZZ off and if he still doesn't get the hint, just delete/block him and *poof* problem solved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Royalty Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 OMG I hate it too whenever I sign in and getting bombarded with game/party invites. So after that we just decided to appear offline whenever we want to play a game. If you don't want to say anything to that friend you and him should just appear offline so nobody in your list will ever know. And then make a party for just you 2 setting it's settings thingy to 'invite only'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hyperion Posted November 7, 2012 Author Share Posted November 7, 2012 Well the thing is he's really excited about it and neither of us had the heart to say anything like "hey you can;t play with us" we just stayed quiet =x As for playing offline, he'd see the achievements we'd get. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destro Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Well the thing is he's really excited about it and neither of us had the heart to say anything like "hey you can;t play with us" we just stayed quiet =x As for playing offline, he'd see the achievements we'd get. Huh if he go as far as looking at your achievements all the time... time to do something. I mean is he always online when you are? Seriously ma'am time to grab your balls.... huh well figuratively speaking... and make it clear even if he is excited about it and all. Tell him you will play with him when your done beating it one time, later ... Like some said, if he is your friend he will understand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hudson888 Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Appear offline? This! Problem solved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Qonok Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Another way is to play two different games. One using characters with each other to stay on the same level and all of that. Then have another character that you two play with your friend. That way you still get to play together but the friend can play with you all, also. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kairi Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 I would just be honest with your friend and tell the truth to him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JessUK98 Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Well the thing is he's really excited about it and neither of us had the heart to say anything like "hey you can;t play with us" we just stayed quiet =x As for playing offline, he'd see the achievements we'd get. And? Is he likely to interogate you over it? Unless he is your 24/7 online stalker then you are bound to get achievements when he isn't about. If he does bring it up in conversation just say something then. Unless he is a teenage internet stalker he should have the capacity to digest the information that you want to just play together first. As others have said I think your best bet is to either appear offline or set your game to invite only so if he is online this gives him the option to message you to ask why he can't join and you can send something back like "Me and XYZ want to just play alone for this playthrough" and then ignore him for the rest of your session. I think you are over thinking things and fearing the worst when there is no need to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmbaLaBamba Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Your best bet here is to just be honest and say 'I just want to play with 'insert name here' for now, if that's okay?' and to make double sure just set the game you're playing to Invite Only and that should solve it. I've done it many times with my friends and they don't mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drizzle_084 Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 If I were you or your b/f.....I would just say "Hey, we want to play with you but not with these characters. Let us beat it at least once than we can all play." It's reasonable and it is something that has been said to me when I issued challenges to friends. They wanted to play the game slowly, i.e. Borderlands, but after they beat it, we rolled new characters and we raced to see who could get to The Destroyer first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChickinOnaChain Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Appear offline? I've done this since I got Gold 4 yrs. ago. I had my online setting set at "blocked" for a few months but now, with BL and my temp Gold account, I'm back to "appearing offline". It seems when I don't, I get message after message, which is annoying. You could set a day for you and your friend to play together and another day for the three of you to play. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barad Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 I delete peaple who are that desperate and annoying tell them the truth, no need to be scared and appear offline like a coward or to save someones feelings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Felonious Monk Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Well the thing is he's really excited about it and neither of us had the heart to say anything like "hey you can;t play with us" we just stayed quiet =x As for playing offline, he'd see the achievements we'd get. "We're having quality time. We'll send you an invite when we want to do things as a party." "But-" *kick It's not that hard. If you don't set boundaries now, you'll regret it later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Opiate42 Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Just have a word with your friend, explain that its just your time together for gaming. If he's a decent guy, he will understand. If you don't set boundaries now, you'll regret it later. This and this^^ If he throws a shitfit, time to reconsider the friends list. He doesn't need to impose himself on you guys every single time. That's kinda rude. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CRA166 T Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 keyword here is FRIEND if he's a true friend then he will totally understand so just tell him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YorkusRex Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 If you don't set boundaries now, you'll regret it later. This +1. If your friend can't understand this then it may be time to help them understand. You don't have to be mean but you shouldn't have to burden your relationship with their demands either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ehrenfried Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Little kids and their problems... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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